In this episode of the Power in Motion podcast, we sit down with Amy Kotha, a mother turned coach for parents of neurodivergent children.
Amy shares her personal journey from a career in IT and real estate to becoming a dedicated advocate and coach for parents of neurodivergent kids, stemming from her experiences parenting two adopted, neurodivergent teenagers from Calcutta, India.
She delves into the complexities and challenges of understanding and advocating for her children’s unique needs, and how getting caught in the chaos and overwhelm led to health challenges of her own.
Since that time, Amy has learned powerful tools centered around nervous system regulation and cognitive behavioural coaching that have allowed her to remain calm amidst the challenges and meet her children with compassion – transforming their entire family existence.
Amy has built her practice around these tools, supporting parents to have their own back so they can best support their kids.
Tune in to gain insight into the importance of self-regulation, emotional intelligence, and creating a supportive community for parents navigating similar paths.
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Episode Summary
Parenting Neurodivergent Children with Love and Understanding: Insights from Amy Kotha
The journey of parenting, marked by its highs and lows, becomes especially profound when navigating the path with neurodivergent children. Amy Kotha, who not only champions this journey personally but also professionally as a board-certified coach, opens up about her experiences and the broader implications of neurodivergence in parenting. Through her story and specialized focus, Amy offers a beacon of hope and a treasure trove of strategies for families on similar paths.
Understanding Neurodivergence
At the heart of Amy’s narrative is the core concept of neurodivergence, a term that encompasses a wide range of neurological differences. Neurodivergence includes conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others that impact learning, attention, mood, and social interaction. Understanding these differences is not merely about acknowledging them but embracing them as variations of the human experience. This acknowledgment paves the way for parenting approaches grounded in empathy, respect, and support, fostering an environment where neurodivergent children can thrive.
Navigating Challenges with Nervous System Regulation
One of the pivotal strategies Amy emphasizes is the regulation of the nervous system, both for the parent and the child. This approach is grounded in neuroscience and psychology, focusing on calming the ‘fight or flight’ response triggered during stress. Amy shares how mastering nervous system regulation not only helped her navigate her own health challenges but also transformed her parenting, allowing for moments of calm in otherwise chaotic scenarios. By practicing mindfulness, deep breathing, and other regulatory techniques, parents can model calmness and provide a sense of safety for their neurodivergent children, making them feel understood and supported.
The Role of Cognitive Behavioral Coaching
Cognitive behavioral coaching, as Amy describes, combines the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy with coaching strategies to change negative thought patterns, behaviors, and emotional responses. This framework is incredibly beneficial for parents of neurodivergent children, offering them a way to understand and navigate their child’s unique experiences. Through cognitive behavioral coaching, parents learn to challenge and reframe negative perceptions, fostering a more positive and supportive environment for their children. This practice not only aids in managing day-to-day challenges but also empowers parents with a deeper understanding of how to advocate for their children’s needs.
Special Focus on PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) Autism
Amy shines a light on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), a lesser-known aspect of autism that presents unique parenting challenges. Individuals with PDA experience an extreme avoidance of everyday demands due to their high anxiety levels and a need for control over their environment. Amy discusses the importance of recognizing these signs and adapting parenting strategies accordingly, such as minimizing demands and using indirect requests. By embracing a collaborative approach and focusing on the child’s perspective, parents can create a supportive environment that acknowledges the child’s autonomy and reduces anxiety-related behaviors.
Empowering Parents through Knowledge and Community
Amy’s final message focuses on the power of knowledge and community in the parenting journey of neurodivergent children. She highlights the transformative effect of educating oneself on neurodivergence and connecting with others on similar paths. Through her coaching programs, Amy fosters a sense of community where parents can share experiences, strategies, and support. This collective wisdom not only empowers parents with practical tools and insights but also reinforces the idea that they are not alone in their challenges. By joining together, parents can navigate the complexities of neurodivergence with confidence, compassion, and understanding, creating a brighter future for their children.
Key Takeaways
- Embracing Neurodivergence: Understanding and celebrating neurodivergent differences is crucial for empathetic and effective parenting.
- Nervous System Regulation: Mastering techniques to manage stress and anxiety can transform parenting approaches, creating a calm and supportive environment.
- Cognitive Behavioral Coaching: This framework equips parents with strategies to change negative thought patterns and emotional responses, promoting a positive family dynamic.
- Understanding PDA Autism: Recognizing the unique challenges of PDA autism is key to adapting parenting strategies that respect the child’s need for autonomy and minimize anxiety.
- The Power of Community: Connecting with other parents of neurodivergent children, whether through coaching programs or support groups, provides invaluable resources and a sense of belonging.
Parenting neurodivergent children is a journey filled with learning, adaptation, and profound love. With the right understanding, tools, and support, parents can navigate this path with grace and resilience, fostering an environment where every child can truly flourish.
About Amy Kotha
Amy Kotha is a board-certified coach through the National Board of Health & Wellness Coaches. She works in private practice, with a focus on mothers of children struggling with neurodivergence, mental health disorders or trauma histories. Her mission is to educate and support these women in a shift to brain-based parenting with a focus on achieving confidence, connection and peace in their lives.
With her combination of a business, clinical, and trauma-informed psychology background, Amy brings unique perspective and experience to her coaching clients. As mom to two neurodivergent, internationally-adopted daughters, she has also gained the personal experience that she considers invaluable in her work.
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