107 – The Power of Honoring Your Desires as a Woman

by | Sep 13, 2023

Show Notes

If you’ve ever felt guilty honoring your desires as a woman – where you feel that you can’t have or do the things you want in life because you worry that doing so would mean you’re selfish, uncaring or ungrateful – this is the episode for you.

As women we’re taught to play small – don’t ruffle feathers, don’t be too bold, too loud, too assertive, too anything.

And as such so many of us are living unfulfilling lives that leave us feeling inauthentic, overwhelmed and resentful.

Well it’s time to flip the script.  The truth is, when we honour our desires and do the things that bring us pleasure, we are our most authentic, POWERFUL selves and that energy is what changes the world!

Tune in to learn how to make it safe to honour your desires  and needs while still caring about those around you.

About the Host

Kim Hagle (she/her)  is Certified Personal Trainer, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Body Image Coach and founder of Radiant Vitality Wellness. 

Through mindset and movement coaching she helps women heal their relationship with food and exercise while disconnecting their worth from their weight, so they can feel healthy, happy and confident in the body they have.  

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Disclaimer.  The information contained in this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.  Always consult a health care professional about your unique needs.


Honoring Your Desires as a Woman: Breaking Free and Embracing Your True Self

Have you ever paused to ask yourself, “Do I truly honor my desires?” If you’re like many women I’ve coached, you might find that you’re out of touch with your own wants and needs. But why is that?

Understanding the Root of the Issue

Our brains, fascinating as they are, have a natural inclination to focus on what we don’t want. This evolutionary trait has been a survival mechanism, alerting us to potential threats and problems. However, when it comes to pinpointing what we do want, many of us draw a blank.

The societal pressures women face play a significant role in this. From childhood, we’re told to be quiet, not to ruffle feathers, and to always put others’ needs before our own. This conditioning often results in us feeling guilty for wanting more or fearing judgment for pursuing our desires. But remember, these societal norms were created in a different era, and it’s high time we challenge and rewrite them.

The Myth of Selfishness

The world often praises women for being selfless, implying that prioritizing oneself is selfish. This mindset is not only limiting but also detrimental. When we suppress our desires, we often feel inauthentic, overwhelmed, and resentful. How can we give our best to the world when we’re filled with such negative emotions?

Moreover, consider this: when we’re told to always put others first, aren’t we teaching the next generation the same? If we want our daughters, nieces, and young women around us to grow up confident and assertive, we need to lead by example.

The Power of Embracing Your Desires

When you truly honor your desires, you change not only your world but also the world around you. Feeling passionate, connected, and purposeful is when you’re at your most powerful. Imagine the ripple effect if every woman stepped into this power.

By embracing our desires, we’re not just benefiting ourselves. We’re setting a precedent, showing others that it’s okay to dream big, to want more, and to chase those dreams with all our might.

Challenging Societal Beliefs

To truly honor our desires, we must challenge societal norms and redefine what it means to be a good mother, partner, or professional. Yes, it might feel uncomfortable initially, but remember, all significant changes start outside our comfort zone.

It’s essential to understand that these societal “standards” were set in a different time, under different circumstances. As the world evolves, so should our beliefs. It’s our duty to question, challenge, and reshape these norms to fit our current reality.

Tips to Start Honoring Your Desires

  • Acknowledge What You Want: Understand what you’re passionate about. What lights up your soul? Start by asking yourself these questions to gain clarity. Journaling can be a great way to explore these thoughts.
  • Notice Objections: When you think about your desires, your brain might present objections. Engage with these thoughts curiously. Question their validity and explore other possibilities. Remember, it’s natural for our brains to resist change, but that doesn’t mean we should always listen.
  • Entertain the Possibility: Think about the positive outcomes of pursuing your desires. How would it impact your relationships, work-life, and overall vision? Visualize your success and let that be your driving force.
  • Make It Safe: Taking action towards your desires might feel daunting. Find ways to make the process feel safe, even if it’s challenging. This could mean seeking support from friends, joining a community with similar goals, or even seeking professional guidance.

You’re Not Alone

In our society that praises women for being “selfless”, it is easy to feel wrong for wanting something more.  But the consequence of this is living an unfulfilling life, always feeling like you’re missing out.   

Remember, honoring your desires doesn’t mean neglecting others. It’s about finding a balance and ensuring you’re living a life true to yourself.

You can reach this place of feeling worthy of pursuing your desires without abandoning your roles or loved ones.  If you’re ready to embark on this transformative journey, I’m here to guide and support you through coaching.  

So, are you ready to break free and step into your power?