108 Building a Positive Body Relationship: A New Perspective on Body Image”

by Kim Hagle | Sep 20, 2023

Show Notes

Get ready for a fresh perspective on a topic we all grapple with: body image.

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of “Building a Positive Body Relationship.”

Instead of focusing solely on what we see in the mirror, we explore the transformative journey of fostering a respectful and trusting bond with our bodies.

Society often bombards us with “ideal” standards, leading many to feel disconnected from their own selves. But what if there’s a more holistic way to view ourselves?

What if the key isn’t in changing our bodies, but in how we relate to them?

Join us as we challenge traditional notions and embark on a path that promises not just self-acceptance, but a deeper, more meaningful connection with the one body we have.

This episode is packed with insights, reflections, and practical steps to start your journey.

If you’ve ever felt the weight of societal expectations or struggled with self-worth, this episode is a must-listen.

Dive in and discover a new way to think about body image.

The Power in Motion Podcast is the show for women who want to feel great IN and ABOUT their body regardless of the number on the scale so they can live their fullest life

About the Host

Kim Hagle (she/her) is Certified Personal Trainer, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Body Image Coach and founder of Radiant Vitality Wellness.

Through mindset and movement coaching she helps women heal their relationship with food and exercise while disconnecting their worth from their weight, so they can feel healthy, happy and confident in the body they have.

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Summary

Introduction: The Power of Perspective

Body image is a topic that has been discussed extensively, but have you ever considered approaching it from the perspective of building a relationship with your body? It’s not just about loving what you see in the mirror, but about fostering a respectful and trusting relationship with the one body you have. This shift in perspective can be transformative, leading to a more holistic and healthier view of oneself.

Understanding the Relationship with Your Body

What Does It Mean to Be in a Relationship with Your Body?

Imagine your body as a separate entity, like a roommate. This roommate is with you all the time, supporting you, caring for you, and yet, you might be criticizing, mistrusting, and even berating it. It’s essential to understand that this relationship is lifelong, and nurturing it can significantly impact your overall well-being.

In many ways, our bodies are the most loyal partners we’ll ever have. They carry us through every experience, every joy, every heartbreak. Yet, we often treat them with disdain, focusing on perceived flaws rather than the incredible feats they achieve daily.

“Your relationship with your body is the longest lasting and most important relationship you’ll ever have. Think about it – you’re body has been with you and will be with you through every experience you’ve ever had – every memory, every trip, every hug, every hardship and tear – your body is always there.”
Kim Hagle – The Power in Motion Podcast

The Societal Pressure on Women

From a young age, women are bombarded with images of “ideal” bodies and taught to associate beauty with success, love, and happiness. This societal pressure often leads to a disconnect from one’s body, resulting in a cycle of trying to “fix” it to fit into these unrealistic standards.

The media, peers, and sometimes even family can perpetuate these standards. Over time, these messages can become internalized, leading to self-criticism and a distorted body image. The constant comparison to an unattainable ideal can be exhausting and detrimental to mental health.

The Reality of Body Image Struggles

The Illusion of Changing for Acceptance

Many believe that changing their bodies will lead to self-acceptance. However, this is a misconception. True acceptance comes from within and is not dependent on external appearances. Trying to change for others often leads to further dissatisfaction and disconnection.

It’s a cycle many fall into: believing that if they can just lose those last ten pounds, or tone up a bit more, they’ll finally be happy with themselves. But happiness and self-worth shouldn’t be conditional.

Building a Relationship Beyond Appearances

Good relationships are built on respect, connection, and trust, not looks. Just as you wouldn’t judge a friend solely on their appearance, it’s crucial to extend the same courtesy to yourself. Your worth is not determined by your reflection in the mirror.

Think about the qualities you value in a friend: their kindness, their loyalty, their sense of humor. These qualities have nothing to do with appearance. Similarly, your value as a person isn’t tied to your physical attributes.

Practical Steps to Improve Your Relationship with Your Body

Focus on the Relationship, Not Just the Body

Instead of trying to change or fix your body, focus on how you treat it. Consider calling a truce and becoming allies with your body. This means letting go of criticism, control, and punishment.

This shift in focus can be liberating. When you stop viewing your body as an adversary, you can start to appreciate it for what it is: a remarkable, complex system that supports you every day.

Commit to Kindness and Respect

Treat yourself with kindness and respect at all times. Listen to your body’s cues, feed it when hungry, and move in ways that make you feel good. Reconnecting with your body’s innate wisdom can rebuild trust and foster a positive relationship.

This doesn’t mean you won’t have days when you struggle with body image. But on those days, remind yourself of your commitment to kindness and respect. Over time, these positive affirmations can help shift your mindset.

The Endless Possibilities of a Positive Body Relationship

When you have a respectful and trusting relationship with your body, doors open. Not only will you feel motivated to move and enjoy food without guilt, but you’ll also feel more confident in other areas of your life. Whether it’s pursuing a dream job, setting boundaries, or trying new things, a positive body relationship can be the catalyst for change.

Imagine the freedom of accepting an impromptu invitation without worrying about how you look. Or the joy of indulging in your favorite dessert without a side of guilt. These are just a few of the many benefits of a healthy body relationship.

Conclusion: The Journey Ahead

Healing your relationship with your body is a transformative journey. As we delve deeper into this topic in the coming weeks, you’ll hear inspiring stories from those who’ve walked this path. Remember, if you ever feel stuck, reach out for support. Together, we can work towards a healthier, more positive relationship with our bodies. The journey might be challenging, but the rewards are immeasurable.

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Hey Gorgeous, I'm Kim (she/her)

I’m a body positive personal trainer for women over 40 who feel like “fitness misfits”.

It’s my mission to make the life changing benefits of movement available to ALL bodies, especially those who feel like they don’t “fit” in fitness spaces.

Thanks for Visiting the Radiant Vitality Blog

Kim Hagle is a body positive personal trainer, body image coach and founder of Radiant Vitality Wellness.

She offers customized personal training, in person group fitness classes, online fitness programs and body image coaching services in Goderich, ON and virtually across North America.

Kim holds a BScN and is an ACE certified personal trainer. She is also a size inclusive fitness specialist, and a certified health and life coach specializing in Body Image. You can read more about Kim here.

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